Are you looking for ways to make your marriage as exciting as it was at the beginning of your relationship? If so, this post and Ways to Date Your Spouse Like You Did Before Marriage: Part 1 are exactly what you’re looking for!
This post may contain affiliate links, which means I’ll receive a commission if you purchase through my link, at no extra cost to you.
The longer your together, the easier it’ll become to stop intentionally pursuing one another. You’ve already proven yourself to your partner and you’re now “locked in”, so why continue the effort, right? Not. In reality, the longer you’re together, the more effort you need to put in.
In this post you’re going to learn how to date your wife or husband and how to continue to pursue one another when you’re married.
After reading this post and Part 1 of this post, you should feel ready to confidently pursue your partner.
This post is all about how to date your spouse.
Ways to Date Your Spouse Like You Did Before Marriage
Spend Intentional Time Together
Once you start living together it’s common to spend lots of time together on a regular basis. When we spend lots of time together, it sometimes feels like there’s no need to set aside time to spend intentionally together. I’m here to remind you that’s not the case.
We should be consistently setting time aside to be intentional with one another. Sitting and watching TV doesn’t cut it. While that’s not inherently bad, it’s not intentional time.
Talk with your partner about what that could look like for you. Would it help you to put a bi-weekly event in your calendar to remind you to plan something twice a month? Would it be better to put one of you in charge of planning the dates each month and that person can choose how many times they happen? If you have kids this may look different than if you’re newly married without kids, or veteran empty-nesters.
The longer you’re married, the easier it is to fall into routine. Instead of going to the same local cafe or tavern every time you have time for a date night, I encourage you to get creative!
Try researching some new spots near you, some events happening near you, or even some markets or restaurants that are more than 40 minutes from your home! A long drive can be great motive for good conversations.
You could also try the Penny Date, or purchase The Adventure Challenge: Couples Edition to give you some inspiration.
If you haven’t hear of the Penny Date, it’s when you get in the car and flip a penny at each stop sign or stop light. When it lands on heads, you go right. When it lands on tails, you go left. You can set a timer and stop when the timer stops or you can just wait till something interesting comes up. This is a great way to bring you somewhere you’ve never been before!
Turn the Mundane Into Fun Dates
Whether it’s physical or mental, you probably have a list of things you or your partner do every week to just keep living normal lives. I know we do. Laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning, lawn care, workouts, and so much more. While these things aren’t super exciting in and of themselves, you can turn them into dates to make them more fun. Let me give you a couple of examples.
Grocery Shopping: For the first half of the list, grab items together. Talk about if you actually like the item your purchasing or if you’d be interested in switching it up. Consider your go-to recipes and think about if you want to add to that list. For the second half of the list, split it into two lists then each of you race to get one of the sections. Whoever checks out first wins!
Workouts: Instead of going to the gym every workout day consider going on a jog or a bike ride in a new area. You could also go to a nearby waterfront and do an improve workout there. We bring a bluetooth speaker to play music and swap back and forth on who decides the next workout.
Dress to Impress
I know how shallow this sounds, and it probably is but whether we like to admit it or not, this was a factor when most of us first started dating our spouses.
When your partner asked you to go out on a date in the first 2–6 months of your relationship I’m confident in saying that you probably did dress to impress. Let’s dive into this. When we first start dating, we want to impress our partner because we want them to be drawn to us. We want them to want to continue pursuing us and doing life with us.
While your partner should treat you well and be attracted to you no matter what you’re wearing, it’s important for you to feel confident in your relationship. When we dress up, we typically feel more confident in who we are and what we we look like. So, not only does you dressing up impact how your partner sees you, but it also impacts how you feel and how you feel your partner sees you.
Consider this: If your partner NEVER dressed up, or at least dressed in something they feel confident in (and maybe they don’t), you would feel like they’re not putting effort into keeping your spark alive as a couple. This makes it tough to believe that they truly care about your attraction to them.
All of this to say, I encourage you to dress in a way that you feel confident when you go out with your spouse!
This post is all about how to date your spouse.
If you enjoyed this post and How to Date Your Spouse Like You Did Before Marriage: Part 1, be sure to check out our other posts in the “date” category.